Comments for Dealing With Bullies! http://www.dealingwithbullies.org All about bullies, what they do and how to deal with them. Thu, 26 Jan 2012 23:18:08 +0000 hourly 1 Comment on The Effects Of Bullying For Victims by experienced http://www.dealingwithbullies.org/the-effects-of-bullying-for-victims/comment-page-1#comment-2758 experienced Thu, 26 Jan 2012 23:18:08 +0000 http://dealingwithbullies.org/?p=20#comment-2758 sometimes, you just got to hold on to what you got, and forget everything else. yes, life isn't easy, fighting for it is even harder, but in the end, you'd all be amazed at what suffer can't get you. so things may be bad now, for a long time, and you feel like you can't move on. but that's life. you have it harder then others, but that just means your suffering will be over sooner. so don't give up. don't give in. because if you do, even wherever you go after this lifetime, you'd just be wondering. wondering, if you had just held on longer if things would have gotten better. if you could of gotten married and have a family, and grow old with someone you love. life sucks, but the future - you won't know if you don't fight! sometimes, you just got to hold on to what you got, and forget everything else. yes, life isn’t easy, fighting for it is even harder, but in the end, you’d all be amazed at what suffer can’t get you. so things may be bad now, for a long time, and you feel like you can’t move on. but that’s life. you have it harder then others, but that just means your suffering will be over sooner. so don’t give up. don’t give in. because if you do, even wherever you go after this lifetime, you’d just be wondering. wondering, if you had just held on longer if things would have gotten better. if you could of gotten married and have a family, and grow old with someone you love. life sucks, but the future – you won’t know if you don’t fight!

]]> Comment on The Effects Of Bullying For Victims by camnjane http://www.dealingwithbullies.org/the-effects-of-bullying-for-victims/comment-page-1#comment-2748 camnjane Wed, 25 Jan 2012 11:30:32 +0000 http://dealingwithbullies.org/?p=20#comment-2748 Hi Concerned Parent, I am not sure that dyeing the hair would make much difference sadly. The bullies would then just have something else to pick on especially if the results were not that great. Your problem is and probably always will be the fact that some authorities and teachers can actually make the situation worse if they don't handle the complaint properly. You are doing the right thing reaffirming him of all the people that love him even if he says that doesn't make a difference. My best advice is to keep up the reinforcement to your boy, keep pumping him up that getting bullied merely for his hair color although frustrating and upsetting is really not that bad and he is better than those bullies. I always also recommend some sort of self defense classes such as Karate. Not only will these classes give your child some much needed self defense skills, but many of them deal specifically with handling bullies and his confidence will also soar to the point where the bullies just won't bother him that much anymore. Good luck and please report back how things go! Cameron Hi Concerned Parent,
I am not sure that dyeing the hair would make much difference sadly. The bullies would then just have something else to pick on especially if the results were not that great. Your problem is and probably always will be the fact that some authorities and teachers can actually make the situation worse if they don’t handle the complaint properly. You are doing the right thing reaffirming him of all the people that love him even if he says that doesn’t make a difference. My best advice is to keep up the reinforcement to your boy, keep pumping him up that getting bullied merely for his hair color although frustrating and upsetting is really not that bad and he is better than those bullies. I always also recommend some sort of self defense classes such as Karate. Not only will these classes give your child some much needed self defense skills, but many of them deal specifically with handling bullies and his confidence will also soar to the point where the bullies just won’t bother him that much anymore. Good luck and please report back how things go!
Cameron

]]> Comment on The Effects Of Bullying For Victims by L.AGANCE http://www.dealingwithbullies.org/the-effects-of-bullying-for-victims/comment-page-1#comment-2697 L.AGANCE Thu, 19 Jan 2012 07:10:25 +0000 http://dealingwithbullies.org/?p=20#comment-2697 Oh my, this story struck my heart..Nichole, I feel your pain and I fear more so my son's pain. He is being abused at school by the bullies.....dear child thank you for standing up to those bullies for your friend. You know you tried and if you believe in God, he loves you for protecting your friend...YOU ARE MY NEW HERO! Here is Nicoles comment that I read: Nichole November 11, 2011 at 4:08 am | Permalink i had a friend once who was bullied in..i stood up for him multiple times but no one listened to me. he would tell me that he didn’t want to live anymore and that everyone would be happier if he didn’t exsist, and when he made a status saying that, people commented on it and told him that he should kill himself and that school would be a better place for them if he killed himself. i now have to see those people everyday, and every time they look at me, i just want to punch them in the face because THEY are the ones who took my best friend from me. THEY are the ones who destroyed a once happy and whole-hearted boy. i miss him so much. RIP Tj:’( Oh my, this story struck my heart..Nichole, I feel your pain and I fear more so my son’s pain. He is being abused at school by the bullies…..dear child thank you for standing up to those bullies for your friend. You know you tried and if you believe in God, he loves you for protecting your friend…YOU ARE MY NEW HERO!
Here is Nicoles comment that I read:

Nichole
November 11, 2011 at 4:08 am | Permalink

i had a friend once who was bullied in..i stood up for him multiple times but no one listened to me. he would tell me that he didn’t want to live anymore and that everyone would be happier if he didn’t exsist, and when he made a status saying that, people commented on it and told him that he should kill himself and that school would be a better place for them if he killed himself. i now have to see those people everyday, and every time they look at me, i just want to punch them in the face because THEY are the ones who took my best friend from me. THEY are the ones who destroyed a once happy and whole-hearted boy. i miss him so much. RIP Tj:’(

]]> Comment on The Effects Of Bullying For Victims by Sam http://www.dealingwithbullies.org/the-effects-of-bullying-for-victims/comment-page-1#comment-2691 Sam Thu, 19 Jan 2012 06:21:30 +0000 http://dealingwithbullies.org/?p=20#comment-2691 The problem today is the parents upbringing of these kids! The problem today is the kids themselves don't give a rats azz if their peer at school kills themselves. These bullies are horrible human beings. Kids are cruel mean and rotten to each other and god bless the good kids. The problem today is the parents upbringing of these kids! The problem today is the kids themselves don’t give a rats azz if their peer at school kills themselves. These bullies are horrible human beings. Kids are cruel mean and rotten to each other and god bless the good kids.

]]> Comment on The Effects Of Bullying For Victims by Concerned Parent http://www.dealingwithbullies.org/the-effects-of-bullying-for-victims/comment-page-1#comment-2689 Concerned Parent Thu, 19 Jan 2012 05:09:19 +0000 http://dealingwithbullies.org/?p=20#comment-2689 camnjane [or anyone willing to help I am a parent of a middle school age old boy. I found out today that he is being bullied because he has red hair to the point he does not want to go to school. Sad thing is his hair is strawberry blonde (blonde with a reddish tint) not even red-red. I don't know what to do. If I contact the teachers, the bullies will be talked to and the bullies are 100 times worse to my son after the teachers are not around. It seems as if when you reach out for the help the child suffers more. Help me..my son wants to dye his hair brown or black. True, he won't be a redhead but this may give these bullies a new thing to pick on him about. I do reassure him of all the people that love him just the way he is and his answer to me is, yeah, but they are all adults. It's his peers. What do you think I should do? Dye it or not. How can my son stop these kids? What can I do as a parent? camnjane [or anyone willing to help
I am a parent of a middle school age old boy. I found out today that he is being bullied because he has red hair to the point he does not want to go to school. Sad thing is his hair is strawberry blonde (blonde with a reddish tint) not even red-red. I don’t know what to do. If I contact the teachers, the bullies will be talked to and the bullies are 100 times worse to my son after the teachers are not around. It seems as if when you reach out for the help the child suffers more. Help me..my son wants to dye his hair brown or black. True, he won’t be a redhead but this may give these bullies a new thing to pick on him about. I do reassure him of all the people that love him just the way he is and his answer to me is, yeah, but they are all adults. It’s his peers. What do you think I should do? Dye it or not. How can my son stop these kids? What can I do as a parent?

]]> Comment on The Effects Of Bullying For Victims by camnjane http://www.dealingwithbullies.org/the-effects-of-bullying-for-victims/comment-page-1#comment-2613 camnjane Sun, 08 Jan 2012 12:26:03 +0000 http://dealingwithbullies.org/?p=20#comment-2613 Hey Kate and thanks for commenting! It's true that workplace bullying is certainly alive and well in this day and age. And as economies suffer and work becomes harder to find and also keep, the pressure on employees and workers to put up with conditions they shouldn't have to also increases. Your situation where family is involved certainly complicates things as the fear factor grows with each person that is affected. What happens is that those that potentially have the power to do something about the bullying are also frozen by the fear of what will happen as a result. It just goes to show that confronting and dealing with bullies takes a lot of courage and a lot of support. My advice to you is confide in with those that you can trust, document everything and look for ways to keep out of the firing line until this principals day comes. Good luck and stay strong! Hey Kate and thanks for commenting!
It’s true that workplace bullying is certainly alive and well in this day and age. And as economies suffer and work becomes harder to find and also keep, the pressure on employees and workers to put up with conditions they shouldn’t have to also increases. Your situation where family is involved certainly complicates things as the fear factor grows with each person that is affected. What happens is that those that potentially have the power to do something about the bullying are also frozen by the fear of what will happen as a result. It just goes to show that confronting and dealing with bullies takes a lot of courage and a lot of support. My advice to you is confide in with those that you can trust, document everything and look for ways to keep out of the firing line until this principals day comes. Good luck and stay strong!

]]> Comment on The Effects Of Bullying For Victims by Kate http://www.dealingwithbullies.org/the-effects-of-bullying-for-victims/comment-page-1#comment-2574 Kate Tue, 03 Jan 2012 05:30:56 +0000 http://dealingwithbullies.org/?p=20#comment-2574 Speaking as an educator I can say that bullying happens even within the faculty and staff at the school I teach for in the southern US. The worst part about is that the main bully is the principal and we're afraid nothing is going to be done since the principal's father works at the administration building for our district. When I went to department supervisor (I'm the art teacher) about the incidents I was just given a "thank you" for sticking in there and didn't have anything happen. I was told there was an "investigation" going on with the labor relations board but the bullying is getting worse and my fellow staff members are at the end of their ropes. Speaking as an educator I can say that bullying happens even within the faculty and staff at the school I teach for in the southern US. The worst part about is that the main bully is the principal and we’re afraid nothing is going to be done since the principal’s father works at the administration building for our district. When I went to department supervisor (I’m the art teacher) about the incidents I was just given a “thank you” for sticking in there and didn’t have anything happen. I was told there was an “investigation” going on with the labor relations board but the bullying is getting worse and my fellow staff members are at the end of their ropes.

]]> Comment on The Effects Of Bullying For Victims by camnjane http://www.dealingwithbullies.org/the-effects-of-bullying-for-victims/comment-page-1#comment-2434 camnjane Fri, 16 Dec 2011 04:05:24 +0000 http://dealingwithbullies.org/?p=20#comment-2434 You are so right Michelle - suspension solves nothing except from giving everyone, both students and teachers a break from the bully and their behaviour. Intervention is the key as you say, to find and isolate the cause of the bullying and then remedy it. The more it is swept under the carpet, the harder it becomes to repair the damage. You are so right Michelle – suspension solves nothing except from giving everyone, both students and teachers a break from the bully and their behaviour. Intervention is the key as you say, to find and isolate the cause of the bullying and then remedy it. The more it is swept under the carpet, the harder it becomes to repair the damage.

]]> Comment on The Effects Of Bullying For Victims by Michelle http://www.dealingwithbullies.org/the-effects-of-bullying-for-victims/comment-page-1#comment-2429 Michelle Thu, 15 Dec 2011 20:33:12 +0000 http://dealingwithbullies.org/?p=20#comment-2429 My son is bullied at school and now it has escalated to assault and battery. He was choked in front of an adult supervisor the other day that left red marks on his neck. The adult just said Stop It... The bully, I fear, is being abused at home in some way and it is manifesting at school. The school's solution is suspension but I think intervention and counseling will help all involved. I don't want the bullied child to be marginalized and cast off, but I can't have him around other kids when he aggressively confronts and assaults them. My son is bullied at school and now it has escalated to assault and battery. He was choked in front of an adult supervisor the other day that left red marks on his neck. The adult just said Stop It… The bully, I fear, is being abused at home in some way and it is manifesting at school. The school’s solution is suspension but I think intervention and counseling will help all involved. I don’t want the bullied child to be marginalized and cast off, but I can’t have him around other kids when he aggressively confronts and assaults them.

]]> Comment on The Effects Of Bullying For Victims by camnjane http://www.dealingwithbullies.org/the-effects-of-bullying-for-victims/comment-page-1#comment-2392 camnjane Sun, 11 Dec 2011 04:42:50 +0000 http://dealingwithbullies.org/?p=20#comment-2392 Hey Mary, what you are going through is so normal as you grow up and make your way through life. It sounds as though you have a good head on your shoulders but and are fully aware of what is going on around you and how to deal with it. You may feel like you are losing when you stand up for yourself but you should know that you are actually winning. Bullies get stronger when they are unopposed and are let to get away with their abuse. Every stand against a bully makes it that much harder for them to hurt you - believe it or not! The fact that you have friends and family around you that love you is so, so important and never forget that. Talk to them whenever you need to and don't try to face lifes hardships all alone! Take care Mary and good luck! Cameron Hey Mary, what you are going through is so normal as you grow up and make your way through life. It sounds as though you have a good head on your shoulders but and are fully aware of what is going on around you and how to deal with it. You may feel like you are losing when you stand up for yourself but you should know that you are actually winning. Bullies get stronger when they are unopposed and are let to get away with their abuse. Every stand against a bully makes it that much harder for them to hurt you – believe it or not! The fact that you have friends and family around you that love you is so, so important and never forget that. Talk to them whenever you need to and don’t try to face lifes hardships all alone! Take care Mary and good luck!

Cameron

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