Bully’s also suffer from the negative effects of bullying.
Although my site is primarily about the effects of bullying, learning how to deal with bully’s, preventing bullying, and learning how to support our children through bullying, it also pays to learn as much as we can about bullies themselves and why it is they do the things they do.
I guess you can look at it as treating the source of the problem (the bully) and not the symptom (the victim). What we all want is for parents and guardians to have confidence in the fact that the effects of bullying and bullying will not happen to their child or children and by understanding bullies and their associated effects of bullying, we can go a long way towards achieving this goal.
Here is a great article looking at the effects of bullying on the bully from the writers and creators of Free From Bullies, Robyn Collins and Wendy Nichols.
“Never stop listening, educating and loving our children.”
What are the effects of bullying on the bully?
Bullies can suffer long-term effects of bullying if their behavior is not addressed. Compelling research confirms that bullies are twice as likely as their peers to have criminal convictions and four times more likely to be multiple offenders.
Why do children bully others and what are the effects of bullying on the victim as well as the bully? What types of bullying is the most common?
There are a lot of reasons why children bully. Some children think it is a way they can make themselves popular; some bully to show off and gain attention. Others simply want to look tough or they feel jealous of the person they are bullying. The last reason might apply, in particular, to siblings where an older child has had its parents’ complete attention for some time and then finds he or she has to share time with a younger sibling. There are also some children who enjoy the power they feel in making other people feel afraid of them.
Quite often bullies are actually being bullied themselves. It seems that rather than feeling empathy because they have been victims themselves, bullies repeat the behavior they have personally experienced. These children may not even realize that what they are doing is wrong and how it makes their victims feel.
Some bullies are aggressive because of the experiences they have at home. They may be spanked or physically abused by their parents or other adults. Some have parents who are bullies.
Bullies often copy the behavior they see or experience at home. Our experience and observation tells us more and more adults appear to be displaying bullying behavior contributing to the effects of bullying – the parent who abuses their child’s teacher, the driver who swears at someone who moves into their traffic lane, the parent who abuses the school coach or members of the opposing team, the shopper who yells at an assistant who does not move quickly enough. Is it any wonder that some children see bullying behavior as ‘normal’?
One of the interesting things is that bullies generally do not suffer from low self-esteem. In fact, they are often confident and even quite popular. Research does show though that they are generally aggressive and view violence as an okay way to interact with other children.
Many bullies are impulsive and active. This may result in parents and teachers ignoring their behavior as they don’t know what to do. Since they aren’t disciplined, bullies learn it is okay to act aggressively towards others. If they are not pulled up for bad behavior young people will continue it.
Sometimes even our schools miss the effects of bullying on the bully…
Schools may support or ignore the impact of bullying behavior without realizing it. Teachers and administrators may recognize and reward only certain groups of students. Athletes or scholars may get special attention while students who are kind and care for others may not be recognized. These schools lack an atmosphere of inclusion and cooperation. Teachers may even be drawn into teasing some students by laughing at ‘jokes’ one student makes about another.
Parents may also be guilty of talking negatively about other students, or even teachers, so that children think it is okay to put others ‘down’. When this happens, the negative effects on a young child’s academic progress can disadvantage them for life thanks to the effects of bullying.